//Dealing with abuse in the Black community

Dealing with abuse in the Black community

When you think about abuse, what is the first thing that comes to mind? Most of us automatically think about abuse in the physical form. What if I told you abuse also comes in the mental, emotional and sexual form as well?

Eight out 10 women have encountered some form of abuse in their life and have been told to keep it under wraps or had been in fear of their lives. You would be surprised of how many people you come across daily that have been or is currently going through abuse. These people know how to hide it well, but if you pay close attention, they always show you signs. I was one of them.

These people need to know that they are not to blame and being abused is never their fault.

Abusers usually prey on kindhearted people. I won’t call them weak because you have to be extremely strong to endure that kind of pain. What some people do not realize is that most abusers are products of their past abuse. Their behaviors either came from being in an abusive environment or being abused themselves and haven’t gone through the proper form of therapy to deal with their trauma.

 In our community, we were brainwashed to keep quiet and to brush things under the rug, which stemmed from slavery days. We were abused and many killed all while having to sit there and just take it. This needs to change immediately. Another reason why many victims don’t speak out is because of the backlash and victim shaming that has been thrown around when someone comes forth about their experience. If you have never been in an abusive situation before you speak on it, try to understand and gain some knowledge of it.

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Everyone is different and handles life situations differently.  Some people are able to escape immediately while others need a little more time realizing what danger they are in.

  Abusers are usually narcissists, who are very good at manipulating their victims into thinking it’s their fault. They also flip the script and try to play the victim so that the actual victim will feel guilty for leaving. Once that has occurred, it gets harder by the day for the victim to leave. The victim then starts to think that this is a form of love instead of abuse and may even then begin to defend the abuser. If you are reading this and you’re a victim of abuse; in NO WAY shape or form is abuse to be taken as LOVE! GET OUT NOW!

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** If you or anyone is currently going through any form of abuse and need someone to speak with look for the abuse hotline in your area or TEXT 954-314-4064 or email melanin.rych@gmail.com.


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